Of expectations and happiness
What have i learnt from my 1 year and some 2 months of working with a special bunch of people?
(1) Expectations
(2) Prudence
(1) Expectations
In order to be happy working here, need to adjust expectations, simply put, expect people who are earning about 2 times my salary to be performing at a lower level, expect that people will travel out of office to seek remote email access and then complain that they have lots of work to do, expect that people will ask for things as though funds drop from the skies, expect that everytime someone talks nicely to you, they are asking you to help with things that they are able, but unwilling to do..
so, when i lower my expectations from this group of "higher educated" and "special" people, i will feel better.. do not expect people who have worked in the force for 5 years to know certain things, do not expect graduates and Masters holders to know how to throw a cup into the bin, do not expect people to have some common sense, do not expect people to not ask stupid questions..
so feel better..
(2) Prudence
This is about finding the middle point of things, about like Buddha's concept of "put the string too tight and it snaps, too loose, and the fish escapes"..
meaning if i want to make a point felt, i cannot reflect that truth, i must adjust my thoughts and pull it towards the median.. for example, if i find that the event planning by Person XX deserves a 2 out of 10, i cannot say so..
why?
because people will think i am bias.. a bad planning will somehow still deserve a 4-5 out of 10, a 2 is an extreme figure, it is a outliner, it does not deserve a 2
So, i will have to adjust my view and give it say a 4 rating, so that people will feel that i am still a reasonable person and that this 4 is easier to swallow then a 2..
a 4 is ok, a 2 is ignore.. damn
but for the sake of reviews and things, i wonder if i can make my point when maintaining my view and rating of specific actions? sadly, the answer is i have to compromise if i want my point heard, so fake, but necessary prudence?
So much so for lessons learnt, useful in life? depends on how you look at it, 2 years of suffering beckons if no sunlight shines on my path.. till then, a better 2007 i hope
Worked and working harder for my Jan07 pay.. damn
(1) Expectations
(2) Prudence
(1) Expectations
In order to be happy working here, need to adjust expectations, simply put, expect people who are earning about 2 times my salary to be performing at a lower level, expect that people will travel out of office to seek remote email access and then complain that they have lots of work to do, expect that people will ask for things as though funds drop from the skies, expect that everytime someone talks nicely to you, they are asking you to help with things that they are able, but unwilling to do..
so, when i lower my expectations from this group of "higher educated" and "special" people, i will feel better.. do not expect people who have worked in the force for 5 years to know certain things, do not expect graduates and Masters holders to know how to throw a cup into the bin, do not expect people to have some common sense, do not expect people to not ask stupid questions..
so feel better..
(2) Prudence
This is about finding the middle point of things, about like Buddha's concept of "put the string too tight and it snaps, too loose, and the fish escapes"..
meaning if i want to make a point felt, i cannot reflect that truth, i must adjust my thoughts and pull it towards the median.. for example, if i find that the event planning by Person XX deserves a 2 out of 10, i cannot say so..
why?
because people will think i am bias.. a bad planning will somehow still deserve a 4-5 out of 10, a 2 is an extreme figure, it is a outliner, it does not deserve a 2
So, i will have to adjust my view and give it say a 4 rating, so that people will feel that i am still a reasonable person and that this 4 is easier to swallow then a 2..
a 4 is ok, a 2 is ignore.. damn
but for the sake of reviews and things, i wonder if i can make my point when maintaining my view and rating of specific actions? sadly, the answer is i have to compromise if i want my point heard, so fake, but necessary prudence?
So much so for lessons learnt, useful in life? depends on how you look at it, 2 years of suffering beckons if no sunlight shines on my path.. till then, a better 2007 i hope
Worked and working harder for my Jan07 pay.. damn
posted by klayhead at 9:34 pm
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